It's great that you have decided to work on building your self-confidence. However, there are a few obstacles that can keep you from achieving your goal. Most of the time, these obstacles are so obvious that they don’t seem like obstacles at all, and all you can see is that your journey to build self-confidence is not taking you anywhere.
Therefore, it’s important to become aware of these harmless obstacles that have all the power to stop you in your path.
1. Are you undisciplined?
Some people simply have the talent to waste a lot of time without realizing it. They lack the self-discipline to stop their actions that waste time. Imagine a situation where you have a list of tasks to be completed successfully as a part of your confidence building program. However, the moment you enter your home you involuntarily grab the remote and start channel surfing on the idiot box or log onto your social media accounts.
It's only after an hour that you realize that you have been vegetating in front of a screen during the time you scheduled to do other tasks. You realize that you have already disturbed your schedule. In a self-development program, it's you and only you who has the power to change yourself. Nobody will come to monitor your actions and progress. You have to keep a watch on your inner graph and see to it that it goes up! Avoid temptations and stick to your schedule.
2. Are you lazy and keep procrastinating? Procrastination is one of the greatest and most silent killers of confidence.
It does not let you complete your jobs and tasks on time; things keep building up and finally, you get overwhelmed. The very basics of building confidence start with listing little things that are doable. You gain more confidence to take on greater tasks and responsibilities by successfully completing the lighter tasks at hand.
However not being prompt and delaying important things places you position to miss the opportunity of working on your confidence and puts you in danger of falling back again into your earlier cycle, thereby wasting all the effort and energy you had put in to becoming aware of your low confidence trap and getting out of it.
3. Does your old self keep pulling you back?
Assume. Vision. Practice. Assume is the technique here. Assume that you are a different person with habits you wanted to instill. Imagine the way you would like to be. Imagine a self-confident you taking things in your stride. Then try to bring into your daily actions the way you have imagined yourself to be. "I dream by painting. Then I paint my dream" was the technique what the great painter Vincent Van Gogh followed.
React to you in a different way, according to your new self. This will establish your new self to the world and will help you keep up the new self until it becomes a habit - a second nature! If you behave indecisively and helplessly, you will invoke proportionate reactions from people around you, thereby reinforcing your old self.
This throws you back again.
Remember that you cannot get ahead if you keep looking back. Realize this and stop sliding back into old habits that keep your confidence low.
Don't copy self-confidence. Do not try to become like someone else.
One of the greatest mistakes that people make when trying to increase their low self-confidence is falling in love with an image of their icon who may be a sports star or a film star or any celebrity and then they try to be like them. This is one of the greatest mistakes that people can commit when trying to increase their self-confidence.
You have to be yourself at all costs.
Getting inspired is wonderful but merely aping these guys won't take you anywhere. There is no need for any two people in this universe to be exactly the same. The challenge is to be yourself in a world that is trying to make you like everyone else!
Create a vision of YOUR life, and take action every day. That's it. Know what's holding you back.
Kimesha Coleman is a self esteem enhancement expert who helps professional women a and entrepreneurs discover their true self and boost self-confidence level.