Are You Addicted to Being the Victim?
Has being a victim become your norm. Many individuals hold the role of victim and never realize how they participate in their own suffering. The surprising fact is that your brain can become hard wired and actually anticipate or seek out the feeling of stress, sadness, shock, shame, and suffering. This is called addiction. As shocking and far-fetched as it may sound its true. You can actually be addicted to being the victim.
Do you find yourself always needing to be rescued from a situation, you seem to create a financial crisis on a regular basis, your relationships are full of drama, and no matter what you can’t seem to catch a break?
The addiction to becoming a victim comes out of a number of advantages that a person can experience in this state:
The avoidance of change: there are many people that fear change and being in a constant state of victim-hood helps to prevent change.
It controls others: (codependency) being a constant victim means getting help from others through the form of an emergency or manipulation. To get what you need you heavy depend on others to bail you.
It is attention seeking: victim-hood can also be an attention-seeking behavior and it's a great way to get attention regularly in a relationship and from others.
It becomes easy to blame others: there is no accountability so making decisions, addressing individual problems or conflicts are handed to others people to take full blame for your situation.
The problems with being addicted to being a victim, you often end up driving people away. It's not a state of being that is sustainable forever and it puts people in a constant state of limbo. When we are addicted to being the victim it's hard to rise above difficult situations and get to a place where you can thrive. By acknowledging your pattern of behavior and working to overcome it, you become more independent in life. You give up the need to feel helpless, seek empowerment instead, and control of your life. Here's a free Self Esteem checklist to help you get started n your journey.
Kimesha Coleman s a Self Esteem Enhancement Expert and Results Coach who works with women who tend to cater to others more and put themselves last on the list to get a clear vision for what they really want, and then I coach them through stuck points so they can achieve success.